Age is “just” a number
June 5th, 2019
I’ve been considering how people reflect on decades of our lives 20s, 30s and beyond. We might consider what “should” happen and when. Perhaps life doesn’t turn out the way we expect it to.
A proverb states: if we only consider the past we can get depressed, or only the future we will be anxious...the only way to be truly happy is to be mindful of the present. Read More
May 5th, 2019
Have you ever had a gift or money you’ve received with “strings attached?”
Felt bogged down by clutter and holding on to belongings you’ve inherited?Read More
April showers & May moments
May 4th, 2019
Well it’s the month of May now. But seems to be raining a lot so far.. Rainy days can be times of reflection.Read More
“Growing up” gracefully
March 22nd, 2019
During the past ten years I’ve informally asked many individuals their secrets for living long happy lives.
Number one answer was undoubtably “staying active.”.... Read More
February 1st, 2019
Do you find you feel different (down, sad, isolated/withdrawn) during winter? This may be more pronounced in parts of the country where significant changes in sunlight and inclement weather causes more time indoors.... Read More
Loving your life?
January 28th, 2019
Single, married, in a relationship?
Often clients contact me with a feeling that their relationships aren’t quite what they had hope for.... Read More
November 22nd, 2018
Take time today to be thankful for at least one thing that is meaningful in your life?
Express gratitude: Thank someone who has been helpful to you.... Read More
Thanksgiving holiday triggers
October 10th, 2018
Are you anxiously anticipating thanksgiving table conversation?
Does your family ask questions such as: “how is work?” “How is your dating life (or relationship) going?” “How’s school?” ... Read More
Plan Not to Plan
September 17th, 2018
When asked about my weekend “plan” this past Friday, I replied, “I’m planning not to plan.” This idea can be daunting for some, but was actually liberating for me... Read More
What happened to February?
September 14th, 2018
Last year I didn’t get an opportunity to blog in February, the month of the Valentine’s Day holiday that many people are anxious about... Read More
Simple mindfulness meditations
September 11th, 2018
Mindfulness is a great way to learn to be present. When educating my clients about this, I start with our senses. Just noticing what we see, hear, smell, feel/touch or tastes can be the first step in this process... Read More
Long to do list?
September 11th, 2018
Consider my recommendation of an ‘I did that already’ list. Sometimes we anticipate what we need to do and this can cause anxiety... Read More
What message do you give your partner? Food for thought
July 2nd, 2018
Healthy eating goals & relationships
July 2nd, 2018
In order to start and achieve any goal, simplicity is key. To address the question of how to support a partner with healthy eating goals, Dr. Kealy recommends a 3 tier approach. Consider the three Cs below (communication, compromise, coordination).... Read More
Feeling Hot and Bothered?
June 20th, 2018
I’ve noticed how upset, irritated and irritable many New Yorkers seem lately.
Do you know your triggers?
If you feel angry and easily agitated take a moment to consider what may cool down your temper.... Read More
Self-care: sustaining balance between self and others
April 23rd, 2018
As we hear from flight attendants on a plane, we should always put our oxygen masks on first.
But this is counterintuitive. No one is helpful to others if we don’t continually care for ourselves.
Keeping this balance of healthy mind & body is a constant process.... Read More
My elevator pitch that was actually in an elevator
April 12th, 2018
Many years ago I met someone who I was changing places with professionally. She was graduating from a masters program and starting a job whereas I was doing the reverse. Who knew that we were switching professional places. Our synchronicity in time led to her recommending me for the job she was leaving. I was subsequently offered her job to work for the chair of the department at a prestigious university.... Read More
Wondering on Wednesday
March 15th, 2018
Today I noticed how many people mentioned things on their daily to do list that they were thinking and feeling that they were "supposed to do."
Perhaps it's because it was snow day for New Yorkers. The inclement weather changed the course of many peoples business practices and home schedules (who I crossed paths with). Only teachers mentioned it was a day off. Not one adult told me they decided to "play" in the snow... Read More
Stress management & mindfulness
January 11th, 2018
I bet you won't believe me - I didn't believe it the first time either. But mindfulness and breath training can help you relax in just a few minutes.
I want to introduce you to the idea of mindfulness which improves stress management and over all well being. Mindfulness is particularly beneficial during the holidays season and upcoming new year.
My questions to you are the following: Do you know what truly helps with relieving your stress and are just not get around to doing it (Thinking you don't have time)? Or do you honestly not know where to even start?...Read More
New Years can feel like a time of renewal. It is exciting to have New Years resolutions and it's always a good time to refresh and restart.
For some people, however, there may be a let down after the New Years festivities. Change in routine can be difficult for many parents and adults. Similarly, children and teens return to school after a winters break.
Some issues that may arise include last minute school work for projects that are due. For many of us out of sight may be out of mind especially if we completely disconnected and relaxed... Read More
Millennials in Manhattan
December 6th, 2017
Manhattan is a one of a kind city. For everyone the hustle and bustle requires a fast pace. To live on your own requires the financial success that typically comes at the price of free time and enjoying relationships. Growing up, I was often told, "life is a trade off" and it is. It's impossible to really enjoy and focus on two things at once. One is distracting you from the other... Read More
Mind body and “something else”
November 29th, 2017
My mission is to help people find and maintain a sense of balance, joy and happiness.
There is sometimes a missing ingredient that people need to find to achieve and maintain a sense of mind and body balance. This may be a love of books or movies, music, the outdoors and nature, hobbies, exercise, health and nutrition/cooking or a combination of the above... Read More
November 16th, 2017
The buzzword of the day is: mindset. Lately several people have asked me if mindsets are "fixed?"
Cognitive psychology teaches us that we can re-train our minds but practicing as a psychologist has made me realize that it's not always so easy to do so. Many people need a therapist or coach to help us to actually change our thoughts, beliefs and feelings... Read More
Home for the Holidays
November 11th, 2017
Is the upcoming holiday season bringing up feelings of anxiety and stress? Consider the benefit of talk Therapy and counseling during these trying times.
Many people visit family and worry beforehand. Perhaps you are anticipating well-meaning questions from others. You may have concerns about past and present relationships. For instance, mundane questions such as: “how’s work? Married/dating life? The kids?” may inadvertently cause an exacerbation of symptoms... Read More...
October 25th, 2017
Are you up late and don’t know why? Do you have difficulty getting to sleep (perhaps especially on Sunday)? Feeling blue about heading back to work and routine? Maybe your family (spouse, children, significant other) adds to this sleeplessness?
This isn’t so surprising given that after many studies on sleep, psychologists have learned that a good routine is best to develop a good pattern. On average many of us prefer 8 hours. But realistically there is a range of what we actually get (from 4-10)... Read more...
Feeling Under The Weather
October 17th, 2017
As the weather changes and we are back to autumn routines, healthy stress management tips are on my mind. Spending time outdoors in nature can help people relax, cope better and effectively refresh our minds.
Last month several parents I spoke to were struggling with the "back to school" routine. I am hoping you've all adjusted. Teachers and professors, or others working in the school system are also resuming the typical school routine. It may be challenging to align your own expectations with your children's anxiety... Read more...
Care Taking 101
October 16th, 2017
My theme this week has been to focus on care taking responsibilities that many people have in their lives. This can be overwhelming at times. Often this particular role makes people think of women, but data and my professional experience suggest that both men and women often have care taking responsibilities... Read more...